Child Inclusive Mediation: Letter to a Child

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Part of my role as a family mediator can sometimes involve me speaking to children as part of the mediation process (child inclusive mediation). This is in situations where both parents feel their child or childen would benefit from having their voice heard through the mediator, and the mediator deems it appropriate.

I thought it would be useful to share with you an example of the first letter I would send to a child inviting them to meet me, as I think it sums up nicely what mediation is all about and how we can help families including children towards a happier future.

Hello Cameron

My name is Laura. I am a family mediator and my job is to help families talk about important decisions when parents live in different homes. I am currently helping your mum and dad make decisions which they believe are best for you and your sister Shona.

Your mum and dad have asked me to write to you becuase they would like you to have the choice to speak to me as well, if that is something you would like to do. I am here to listen to how you feel about the time you spend with your mum and your dad and any ideas you have for the future. We would then agree together what of the things you have told me, you would like me to tell your mum and dad. Anything you don't want me to share with your mum and dad I won't, as long as I don't feel you are being hurt.

If you would like to come and talk to me, please let your mum know and she will arrange a day and time for us to meet.

I am really looking forward to meeting you.


If you would like to know more about child inclusive mediation or family mediation generally please feel free to contact me on 0113 322 9222 or at

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